The crackers have all been pulled, the turkey eaten and the presents all unwrapped.  Its time to make your New Year's Resolutions.

But do your New Year's Resolutions include a new life without your spouse?

Often people consider separation at this time of year, but sometimes you can be uncertain as to your next steps?

First of all try to keep things as amicable as possible, especially if there are children involved.  You will need to keep on good terms to ensure that the children are affected as little as possible and contact can run smoothly.

If there are financial issues to sort out such as the matrimonial home, savings, maintenance and pensions then again, if you can remain on good terms this is by far the best thing.  If you have trouble agreeing you should consider going to see an independent mediator who can help you reach an agreement.

Once you reach an agreement do go and see a Solicitor to ensure that what you are agreeing to is fair.  Many Solicitors offer a reduced fee first interview for initial advice.

A Solicitor can also talk you through the options to formalise your agreement which will include a Deed of Separation or possible Divorce Proceedings.

First Published in Kings Hill Directory in January 2007